As many of you may know, the process of adoption
can be a trying and harrowing experience laced with many little trials
and tribulations along the way. Fortunately, we saw Our Lady of Good
Success guiding us through this adoption right from the start by helping
us choose the country from which we would adopt. We were not
“approved” for the children until the middle of July. During this
waiting period, our social worker played the Devil’s Advocate inciting
every possible horrific situation that could happen to us if we adopted
these children. She had us read books about adopted children who had
failed to bond with their adoptive families. How these children
destroyed happy homes. She suggested that one or more could have severe
mental handicaps, even mental retardation, not to mention physical
problems that could surface later.
We continued to pray not doubting that Our Lady was
helping us. There were many set backs along the way. However, we did
manage to obtain a video of the children that made us feel more
confident that these children were for us. Yet our social worker still
suggested situations in the negative. As a result, we studied every
possible potential problem we could have and all the remedies that deal
with correcting these problems. Though we suffered intensely
psychologically during this period, it forced us to prepare for the
worst-case scenario. We ended up being determined to adopt them even if
they were the naughtiest children that could ever be adopted. We are
grateful to our social worker for that trial she put us through for we
did the research that was necessary to arm ourselves for the future
troubles.
As we progressed into our adoption, I happened to
talk with Marian Horvat, the writer of the book on Our Lady of Good
Success. When she found out that we were adopting in Colombia she
suggested that we first go to Ecuador to see Our Lady of Good Success. I
have to admit I was excited. But when I posed this to my husband, he
treated me as if I was Lucy Ricardo dreaming up some hair-brained idea
… and the expense was unimaginable — so I was told. Here we were
spending $$$ thousands $$$ of dollars on this adoption and I had the
audacity to suggest we go to another country beforehand where we knew
virtually no one, we spoke no Spanish and the statue was in a cloistered
convent for heaven’s sake. He asked me if I didn’t think it was
exciting enough to travel to one of the most dangerous countries in the
world to adopt these children. Undaunted, I asked “Ricky” if I could
at least check just how expensive this trip would be. Of course, he
agreed. Lucy won the first skirmish! Time would tell who would come out
the victor.
So the next morning I called the travel agent that
handled our adoption travel. I told her about what we wanted to do…go
to Quito, Ecuador, then to Manizales, Colombia, then to Bogotá,
Colombia. I told her we had been praying very hard for this adoption to
be successful. I told her we were thinking of making a thanksgiving
pilgrimage to Our Lady of Good Success in Quito, Ecuador if all went as
it should. She suggested that we first look at how much it cost to fly
from Milwaukee to Bogotá and then to Manizales. She checked and gave me
the total. The next thing she did was to check how much it would cost to
fly with the added trip to Quito, Ecuador first.
As she finished typing in her information on the
computer, she let out an expression of surprise and then said, “Well
you better keep your prayer book open because something’s working…
The cost to travel to Quito first is cheaper than to go to straight to
Colombia to get the kids!” When I told that to Dan, he got this funny
schmirk on his face… He knew just what I was thinking! He had been
beaten! There was no fighting the Blessed Mother. Our Lady had cleared a
massive objection to this plan and there was no real reason we
couldn’t go. We both knew Our Lady was calling us there. She had won
the battle without even so much as a struggle.
Next, I happened to find a contact in Quito in
August. He spoke no English but had a young 16-year-old neighbor boy
translate e-mails that I would send him. He expressed his willingness to
help us to fulfill our desire to see Our Lady of Good Success. It seemed
all we had to do was get the approval to go. We were told by the
adoption agency it would be any day now. We waited and waited. Our
contact hoped for us to come in October for Our Lady of Good Success is
publicly venerated in the La Conception Church during that month with
much festivity. (Normally, the miraculous statue of Our Lady of Good
Success is in Abbess’ chair in the upper choir of the cloistered
convent, so the public cannot view her.) How anxious he made us! No word
came for us to go. There was nothing we could do but wait and pray for
the Blessed Mother to direct us as she saw fit.
I received a picture over the e-mail of the
children one day. At this point, every little set back or disappointment
suggested that our adoption might never happen. Patience was never a
virtue I had in abundance. I decided to send the picture of the children
to my contact. I asked him to take it to the Church where Our Lady of
Good Success was venerated. I requested he leave the picture somewhere
in the church so Our Lady would not forget our pressing need. I received
word within a couple of days that in fact, Roberto not only took the
picture to the church, but he gave it to the Mother Abbess, and she went
and placed the picture on the heart of the statue of Our Lady of Good
Success. What joy I felt on that day! I knew then we couldn’t fail in
our adoption. I knew that soon all would be as we had hoped.
On October 17th - the day after my birthday - we
received word that we could come. We could not leave until Nov. 3, the
feast of St. Martin de Porres - patron saint of South America. Since we
were not able to visit in the month of October, our contact implied that
we may not be able to get permission to see the statue if we came in
November. We told him it was too late now, we’re coming any way! Meet
us at the Quito Airport! So we left for South America not knowing for
sure, if we would even be able to see the one we so hoped to visit —
Our Lady of Good Success!
My husband, Dan, my son Mike, and I left the
Milwaukee with a compilation of suitcases and carry-ons. We looked like
we were moving to South America – in a way we were. The process of
adoption, in Colombia, takes four to eight weeks. We were informed
before we left that we would be in a hotel with the four children for at
least four weeks. We had to bring clothing for ourselves and the four
new additions to our family along with toys, games, coloring books, etc.
to keep this Spanish-speaking family of four entertained for the
30-long-day haul.
The flight was uneventful. We
arrived in the Quito Airport at 10:30 p.m. We experienced a
bit of a
culture shock that night. With none of us being fluent in Spanish, we
were at a loss at where to go or what to do. We stood with our huge
mound of luggage in the airport terminal gaping at the crowds of
Spanish-speaking people for a few minutes. With my pathetic use of
broken Spanish, I then attempted to try to get some assistance as to
where to go to meet our contact. I failed miserably — well at least I
managed to get a smile out of my family members’ faces.
We decided to go with the flow out the main
entrance past armed guards in green military uniforms, past a long row
of steel bars that looked strikingly similar to ones you see in prisons.
Through these bars, the natives were clamoring in Spanish. To say the
least, it was all a bit unsettling. Despite this Ecuadorian pandemonium,
I managed to breathe a silent prayer we would find our South American
contact, Roberto, and soon. Thoughts raced through my mind — what if
our contact wasn’t there or we couldn’t pick him out of the crowd?
— After all, these Ecuadorians all looked the same especially in the
dark. — What if we couldn’t find a hotel. What if...what if…???
As we continued now into the midst of the crowd —
steel bars no longer separating us from the natives… I heard my name
— very faint yet distinct — even if he did mispronounce it.
“Cat-y?” he said. I had never welcomed the sound of someone
mispronouncing my name as I did that moment. We were all flooded with a
sense of relief. Our contact had not failed us. We soon discovered we
had a major communication barrier. All we could do after the “mucho
gusto’s” was smile at each other rather uncomfortably. I did manage
to ask Roberto whether we would be able to see Our Lady of Good Success.
His reply was a Spanish “maybe”.
We loaded all of our suitcases into two taxis –
well they weren’t actually taxis as such, more like rather large
jeep-type vehicles. We traveled through the southern part of the city to
our sleeping quarters. We wondered where Roberto had reserved a room for
us. As we approached the dazzling tower of the Marriot in Quito, my
husband’s eyes lit up. I inconspicuously nudged him and gave him a
facial expression to indicate the negative. Poor husband of mine! What I
was putting him through! We passed the Marriot to Dan’s great
disappointment.
We continued on as the neighborhood
started looking a little bit rougher — even in the
dark. Finally,
we stopped in front of some rather large looming wrought iron gates. The
building behind it was hard to make out. It was a rather dark, gloomy,
foreboding looking place in the moonlight but it was to be ‘home” for us
during our short stay in Quito. As we entered the foyer of this hotel,
we struggled to focus our eyes as the 40-watt lights that “illuminated”
the entry dimmed regularly in 5- minute intervals. We discovered this
was a “renovated” convent.
We were led up a dark stairway through numerous
hallways decorated with large mirrors (I don’t know about you, but
dark hallways with mirrors really give me the willies — I was afraid
to look in them for fear of what I might see). I was amazed at all the
interconnecting passageways — some more like crawl spaces. We arrived
at our room. Here again this room had been “renovated” complete with
another flickering 40-watt light bulb dangling from the center of the
room, windows with no screens (common in South America), and cheap oil-
on- velvet paintings of anorexic-depressed, sunken-eyed children. We
tried to remind ourselves we were on a pilgrimage to Our Lady of Good
Success as we readied ourselves for bed by bed checking for four, six,
or 8-legged creatures of South America. We were relieved not to find any
- we actually didn’t bother to examine too closely closets or corners
for we were hoping to get some sleep and we were afraid we’d actually
find something there. My last thought as I drifted off to sleep was that
I hoped I wouldn’t hear any chains rattling or moans from any deceased
sister that may be doing purgatorial penances round about the convent
halls and passageways.
We awoke to the crowing of the roosters. Now that
would not be so unusual if we were in a country setting but we were in
downtown Quito. Roberto was to meet us for our tour of old Quito so we
ate a quick breakfast and waited for him. Roberto had a taxi waiting for
us; we hopped in and headed out for an exciting day of touring with our
friendly Ecuadorian guide we couldn’t understand. Of course, one of my
first questions I posed to Roberto was whether we would be able to in
fact accomplish what we had set out to do — namely visit Our Lady of
Good Success. Once again, we were given a smile and a “maybe”.
We hadn’t gotten two blocks when the taxi driver
stopped unexpectedly and motioned for the four of us to get out. The
three Americans in the taxi found it rather odd. But we soon discovered
that our driver had run out of gas — a common occurrence there in
Quito. “No problemo!” We would just hail another taxi. Hopefully, we
would pick one with a full tank this time. I couldn’t help but ponder
what would happen to a taxi driver in NYC if he let his car run out of
gas during rush hour traffic We were quickly discovering that life was
very different here in Ecuador. We did find another taxi that took us to
dwelling place of Our Lady of Good Success, La Conception Church, to
pray.
As you may recall the statue resides in the
Cloistered convent there and it was no longer
October so we had to get
permission to enter into the convent. We hadn’t gotten permission yet.
So there we knelt, so close and yet so far. You can imagine what I
prayed for that day! We did also take pictures. About 10 a.m. we set out
to meet Roberto’s neighbor, Estaban. He joined us to help with the
communication problem, which by then was getting very discouraging. We
walked around most of the old part of Quito -- the square and cathedral.
We saw most all of the beautiful churches in the area and there were
many to see. ALL had miraculous stories attributed to them - many of
which seem to have apparitions of the Blessed Mother associated with
them. We soon realized La Conception Church was comparatively one of the
poorest churches in the surrounding area – less ornamentation and
design then the rest — also not kept up as well as the others.
However, by American standards, it was a highly ornate church.
We had a wonderful day of touring minus the
disappointment of not being able to accomplish our mission as of yet. At
the day’s end, I broached the topic with our young interpreter. We
were able to ascertain that “mañana,” the very last day of our
visit, we MIGHT be able to see the Virgin. The idea of a
less-than-definite “yes” was beginning to make me extremely anxious
but all we could do was leave everything in the hands of the Blessed
Mother. I began to have little doubts of the purpose of our trip
creeping into my mind. However, I had quick recourse to her, she who can
intercede for us. After all, weren’t we going to visit Our Lady of
Good Success? How could she let us down and make our trip look like a
failure? When we arrived back at our hotel, we found that there were
other people hoping to catch a glimpse of Our Lady of Good Success also.
We were not alone. That alone gave me hope again.
We were to meet in the lobby at 8:30 a.m. the next
day. Roberto was to arrange travel to the church. We were all a little
excited and we were down in the lobby earlier than the scheduled time.
We waited nervously for Roberto. At 8:45 a.m., one of the other men that
we had previously met the night before was getting nervous and didn’t
want to wait any longer. He asked us if we wanted hail a taxi together,
go along with him to La Conception church, and wait for Roberto there.
We agreed.
We arrived at the church as the sisters were
chanting their prayers. Their singing relaxed me a bit and I got the
feeling we were a bit early. Roberto arrived ten minutes later. I could
scarcely contain myself. Was this finally the day? Would we get
permission? Roberto walked up to the grate in the front of the church
and spoke with someone. After what seemed like an eternity, he motioned
for us to come. We were to be admitted to the convent for a visit and a
tour! Our Lady had heard our prayers! She was awaiting our visit.
Mother Abbess of the Conceptionist
Convent was the one who greeted us with kind smiling eyes and a sweet
demeanor. She directed us up to the choir loft where the majestic Lady
resides. It is very hard to put into words what one exactly feels when
you have reached the
culmination of
a spiritual journey such as this. I had many thoughts race through my
mind. This pilgrimage was not like so many others such as Lourdes or
Fatima. There they have millions of people coming every year to visit
these holy places. This pilgrimage was so solemn, so ethereal. I
imagined that a shepherd at the First Christmas or a camel boy at the
Epiphany must have experienced similar feelings as we did on that day.
After all, here we were at a place so hidden from the material world — a
holy place unknown to most of the Catholic world even. Why we had been
allowed this extraordinary grace of visiting with Our Lady of Good
Success in the year of Our Lord, 2000 AD God only knows?
As we all knelt before her and her Infant Son, I
could barely even remember how to pray. All I could do was gaze at the
statue and commend all of my life’s problems, my hopes and fears, my
needs and those of my family and friends into her hands. I thanked her
for leading us to our adoption, for our additions to our family we had
yet to meet and of course for directing us to this holy place of
pilgrimage. I asked her for the singular grace to be a good and wise
mother to these children I knew nothing about. Finally, I pledged my
allegiance and my life to her under that lovely title of Our Lady of
Good Success. I made a solemn promise that I would work towards the end
of seeing her be made known in the United States and beyond.
After our prayers, I asked the
Mother Abbess, through our translator, if she would touch a linen cloth
to the statue, which she agreed to do most graciously. I also asked if
she could
touch our
rosaries to the statue. She motioned for me to join her and she led me
up some rather rickety stairs to the pedestal where Our Lady rested. I
don’t know how many people in the world have been given the gift of
actually touching something the Archangels and Saints have made but I
counted myself as being in the minority! Now by the grace of God may I
live up to such a fortuitous grace and honor!
We were directed to worship Our Lord in the Blessed
Sacrament there in the choir loft. I felt remiss in not recognizing His
Presence immediately as there was a red lamp present. We paid our
respects and expressed our gratitude to the King of the Conceptionist
Convent as well.
We reluctantly left the choir loft to tour the rest
of the grounds. The Mother Abbess rang a large bell as we walked through
the convent. I couldn’t help but consider myself a leper – a worldly
secular leper capable of endangering and infecting the unsullied
virginal souls of these sanctified grounds. We walked through the
convent garden, which was being renovated at that time. Through the
exterior corridors we reverently passed until we reached the crypt of
Mother Marianna de Jesus Torres and the other founding sisters. We found
them displayed in a glass case Unfortunately the good bishop of Quito
has decided that a black hood over the heads and feet of these saintly
sisters is a fitting adornment for the blessed ones who lie incorrupt in
their tomb. We asked to have our rosaries touched to their holy remains
but that was not allowed.
We had heard of the stories of these incorrupt
sisters – how at one time they were kept in beds in one room and the
cleaning lady affectionately referred to them as “her sleeping
beauties.” We have heard that there are 13 of these “sleeping
beauties” there at the convent. May one day in the not so distant
future, God see fit to unveil these blessed ones for the entire world to
see, that they might manifest the deep spirituality this convent has
contained for all of these hundreds of years.
We were also shown a weeping picture of Mary that
had recently wept about six months before we visited there. One could
see the streaks where the tears had flowed down her cheeks. What marvels
were contained in these humble walls of stucco! It reminds me of the
Bible quotation …“Eye has not seen nor ear has heard...” What
gifts God has bestowed upon this convent! Oh, how little we understand
the workings of God.
Before we left I promised the Mother Abbess that I
would do all humanly possible to propagate the devotion to Our Lady of
Good Success. She gave me prayers and a novena in Spanish along with
some medals to help me get started. We left content that we had
accomplished our pilgrimage. Little did we know that our pilgrimage had
just begun…our mission has yet to be completed.
Heading to Colombia to adopt our new children I
felt as if God gave us the grace to endure the unknown of adopting four
older children (Andres-age 10, Valentina- age 6, Laura -age 5, Luisa-
age 3). For me, this is the miracle Our Lady of Good Success had
accomplished in us. She helped us conquer all of our fears, our
weaknesses, our selfishness, our insufficiencies. She has filled in the
space our “humanness” could never fill. She is truly a spiritual
mother who has watched over these children. She continues to do so. Our
adoption agency has a special term for children who have difficulty
finding families. These children were called “children of
promise...” It means that these children are children of great
potential – of wonderful possibilities — that is, given the right
chance – the right conditions. We hope and pray that it has a
spiritual meaning as well.
Through all of the ups and downs of our adoption,
we felt Our Lady’s guiding hand …. even in the darkest of times. She
gave us hope and increased our faith in God and in His Church. May we
continue to receive these great and powerful graces of her help… May
we never lose it.
May our story help you and many others find their
way to Our Lady of Good Success.
And remember that when life seems
to be more than you can handle and your soul is immersed in doubt and
grief, turn to Our Lady and say: